By Melissa Coats, LPC

Generations of women have been assured by the church that if they follow the purity rules and saved their sexualities for their husbands, they would be rewarded with a fulfilling marriage and a satisfying sex life. Promise rings leading to promises of the picture perfect marriage! Yet an overwhelming number of these women get to their wedding night full of hope, only to be disappointed, confused, stressed and in pain.

If this describes your experience, let me be perfectly clear…

You. Are. Not. Alone.

There. Is. Nothing. Wrong. With. You.

Hard to believe? There is a reason for that. Sexual shame causes the urge to hide and deal with feelings in private. The thought of someone confirming the negative thoughts that something is wrong or finding out you are all alone with this problem can feel devastating. So most women don’t say anything and suffer in silence while trying every trick the internet has to offer to increase their sex drive.

So let’s shed some light on this issue so we can uplift each other as women and not feel so alone and confused. With accurate information, support, and a growing understanding of female sexuality, it is possible to lead a satisfying sex AND spiritual life.

On January 28th, we are going to talk about the common harmful messages about sex, why they have had such a strong impact, and what to do with all that information. We will discover why brain function and body development don’t always line up with the strict rules of purity culture and how to use brain chemistry in our favor.

Spirituality and sexuality do not have to be mutually exclusive. You do not have to give up one for the other. Both are important parts of your identity and make up the whole, magnificent person you were created to be.